Makes OR Breaks

Ever met a seemingly attractive person in the beginning that’s conversation was just almost perfect and then on the second date you get a better glimpse of them and there is something that just isn’t right to you? For instance, they were wearing a hat when you met them but take it off and have grey hairs; they had a head full of weave (which you thought was real) but then take it out and have no more than an inch of real hair; they were in work clothes the first time you all met and come to find out they have NO sense of style or fashion. What about someone with a great personality but does annoying things that are less physical? Like someone who constantly smacks their lips or licks their fingers when they eat, or an overly loud laugh… someone who makes stupid obnoxious jokes?

When do you make the decision on what is a MAKE and what is a BREAK – in terms of deciding whether or not to date this person?

In my opinion, it’s all about the amount of annoyance their attribute or trait causes you. If you’ve only spent time with them once, give it a second chance. See if their personality outweighs whatever it is that you “can’t stand”. If you give it say… about a month, you might actually come to find out that they have a great genuine personality that outweighs any negative. Then, after you two have gotten a little more comfortable you can suggest or hint to them something about what bothers you. If in a month’s time, you like the person so much that you forgot what was even bothering you to begin with – it clearly wasn’t even that big of a deal. Now, if you get to the 2^nd outing and that’s all you can focus on, then maybe you should make that the last date. Just time it and see where it takes you. There are a few times something has bothered me, either I’ve spoken up or let it slide and 3…4 months down the road it didn’t matter anymore or it was fixed. Either way, you might be missing out on a good thing by just letting the person go off of something so small so don't make everything so black and white. Take the time to figure out if it's something you can live with or not and then make a decision!