The conTEXT of Drunk Texts

It’s Saturday night and everyone’s out partying having a great time, drinks are flowing and the dance floor is packed. The party lasts all night and you wake up the next morning wondering how you even made it home. You stumble downstairs and grab some cold water and toast and plop down on the couch to catch some of Sunday’s football games. When you check your phone you see a series of texts that you don’t even remember sending between you and your ex about how you miss her…

… Or females, how about drunk texting the guy you’re really interested in but don’t want to come off too forward to. FAIL! FAIL! FAIL!

Oh, the infamous “drunk texts”… we’ve all been there, it’s happened to the best of us. But, how should they be taken by the receiver? Do we read drunken texts (or bbms) as people say we should – “a drunk persons words are a sober man’s thoughts” OR do we just ignore them and not take them serious because they can’t man up and say it to us when they are sober anyway?

Ehh. No one wants to sit there and have to read between the lines trying to figure out if the person is serious or not. There are different types of drunk people: those that just embellish their thoughts a little when they drink, and those that become completely different people. If you are the type that sends crazy or obnoxious messages when you get drunk, maybe you should leave your phone in your purse or in the car – or erase your ex’s number so there’s no chance of it happening. If you wake up in the morning and find that you had a whole convo of drunk texting with someone and said some things you probably shouldn’t have, clear it up by letting them know you were drunk and said some things you normally wouldn’t.

If you are the receiver of constant drunken 4 am texts – set some boundaries and don’t text them back. Let the person sending the texts know that you can’t take their texts seriously and if they are really trying to get to you know, that’s definitely not the way to do it.

I personally just don’t entertain the drunk calls, texts or anything else. I do think it is about reading in between certain lines though. For instance, if the person never hits you up or says what’s on their mind when they are sober and 3 drinks in, the words and texts start pouring out – that says a lot about their communication skills and not in a good way. If someone ONLY texts you when they’re drunk at 3 and 4 am… that shows you where they are at. They aren’t looking for a dinner date, they’re looking for dessert and by entertaining them you’re letting it be known that it’s okay and acceptable to only be hit up when they have been drinking. At the end of the day, it’s all about what type of message you are trying to get across and if it only happens when drinks are flowing then most likely you are sending them the wrong message about how you want to be approached.