A Simple Thank You.


thank you for jumping into my world. read. share. live mindfully. laugh often. seek balance. choose happiness. love life. -- XOX ♥ msamarse

12.30.2010

GOODBYE 2010!


The end of the year is here... 







To sum this year up… this year was a pretty great year for me. It had its ups and downs like every other year but overall the biggest complaint I have is that it’s cold outside! Lol

The first part of the year is always exciting to me just because I know that upcoming challenges will be approaching and of course my birthday – January 2nd :). I always wonder what I should expect and be prepared for, but the truth is, you never can be too prepared for life… it just comes and you just have to take it how it’s thrown at you.

In 2010, I started out the year pretty sad and disheartened because I was supposed to be volunteering in Panama and didn’t get to go… I had just graduated and hadn’t planned on being home so I wasn’t working yet. By March, I got my first post-grad job at Trax.com, which has been going really well and in June I was offered a full time position. I went to school for Criminal Justice and ended up a Marketing Research Analyst, which has taught me many things and allowed me to open up my experience to other industries. We’re a start-up company which is teaching me MANY things I’ll need when I open my company. I work with 3 other people, excluding my boss – all of which are under the age of 25 so it keeps the office pretty interesting and definitely fun. I also really did a huge push on my business stuff and in 2011 I will be doing WAY more of that and a little less of building everyone else’s “brand”. April was a roller coaster for me because I experienced death up close and personal for the first time in life. My Aunt passed away on the 9th but then I was blessed with my 1st nephew on April 13th. It was definitely a whirlwind, but opened my eyes to the blessings I have and the way they are being presented to me. My nephew (and god-son) Brayden has been such a joy to my life for the past 9 months… he’s almost walking and already has 2 teeth, being an Aunt is an amazing feeling!! Summer was… well SUMMER, my all-time favorite part of the year of course. July brought an amazing man into my life that allowed me to see chivalry is DEFINITELY not dead. He’s everything I ever could have asked for and more & I thank God every day for blessing me with him and the love he shares with me. [I love you baby] – The rest of the year has been great. I’ve had many things to look forward to and be thankful for this year, and the holiday’s brought family time as my brother returned from school after finishing up his 3rd semester at Morehouse College.

2011 will be nothing but great because I’m proclaiming that now. I know there will be things that I will not like and will not understand, but as I grow I’m realizing more and more how to accept and move on. I’m ready for what the year has in store as I embark on 2011 and 23 years!

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE & thanks for the support this year, expect more upcoming!

(As I always say about each new day… If 2010 was not a good one, YOU have the power to make 2011 better… use it!)

12.09.2010

Knowing WHEN to Make That Change

While listening to John Legend’s “I can change”, I came across this thought: “Is changing about knowing WHEN to change or having someone WORTH changing for?”

Time and time again guys come across “good” females and vice versa and yet, choose to pass them up because they are not willing to put aside the games, the party life and the side pieces and close that little black book long enough to realize that they have something good right in front of them. So should we expect that people wake up one day and simply decide “Oh it’s time for me to grow up and work towards eventually being in a relationship”? Highly unlikely. I believe it’s something that is decided when you meet THAT person of quality that you’ve been “looking for” and then it’s up to you to realize what you have and decide to change your ways. When you come across the person that actually keeps your attention long enough and makes you not want to go out and find other people, that’s when the change comes naturally.

I’m not saying that this “change” requires spending Saturday evenings in the house reading and knitting and not having a social life anymore, it’s just about growing up a little and closing the bachelor/ette chapter of your life… at least for the time being. In the song, Snoop mentions ”When you find one like that, you have to make that change, cause they don’t come to often… and when they do come, you got to be smart enough to know when to change.” Everyone has the specs written out in their head about their prototype and qualities they prefer in their mate. When you meet that person, they’re vibe and attitude should make you WANT to do better. And that is exactly why no man (or woman) can be FORCED to give up a certain lifestyle or get rid of other people that they’re dating.

Change varies from person to person. There are a few people that need a whole re-vamp on their relationship etiquette, some just need to give up some habits here and there and others will just NEVER get it; those will be the single 40 year olds still trying to pick up girls at the club 15 years from now. It’s all about your own personal needs. If you’re a partier and you enjoy spending 4 nights a week in the club, by all means do you… however, don’t think for one second that your bf/gf is going to sit at home and wait around for you while you continue to party and most likely meet other people. If you are scared and always keep people on the side for fear of commitment, the bug just hasn’t gotten to you yet. One of these days you’ll meet someone to make you want to get rid of the others. After all, what will you need them for if this one has all the qualities you've ever wanted and more?

But ultimately, it takes realization and unfortunately for some, it’s realizing what you have before it’s too late. I’ve seen guys date a perfectly fine girl and tell me how great she is and this and that and RIGHT before he goes to get rid of the others because he sees he doesn’t need them, bam… she finds something out about him that completely ruins the situation. It happens every day… so if you are sitting in front of someone who you know should be cherished and done right by, do the right thing… or let them go. There is someone out there willing to make that CHANGE for them if you aren’t!